That's Not My Problem Oxymel Tincture

This oxymel tincture supports us becoming more aware when we are taking on other people's problems, as our own. When others see us as resourced and available they may bring their problems to us with the expectation that we will use our own creative life force to come up with solutions.

We can instead learn to create space for others to stay grounded and present while they grow their capacity to learn from their own mistakes and make healthier choices. We can identify and address the thought distortions and conditioning that feeds the tendency to try to rescue and protect others from experiencing their own emotional pain.

We may default into enmeshment, matching energy and becoming the unconscious caregiver as a way to relieve our own discomfort with seeing others experiencing growing pains. Ultimately this medicine is a pattern disruptor which will allow us to learn to take care of our own needs and then from that place to be the channel not the source for others healing.

We can also release any guilt that comes from not taking on more than is our part. From this empowered place we can lovingly say, “That’s not my problem”. We become comfortable helping others only within our own capacity.

This blend was thoughtfully curated with the themes of The Subtle Art of Relationship Dynamics course.

Ingredients: 

Magenta Yarrow, grown and harvested from our Resonance Apothecary garden, apple cider vinegar, honey, and the following flower essences for additional & loving support:

Blanket Flower Essence: A nourishing plant kin that supports us after a traumatic experience. Provides understanding and nourishment after a tense period.

Borage Flower Essence: A flower of courage and emotional fortification, Borage provides alleviation to emotional heaviness offering illumination when our hearts feel heavy.

Calendula Flower Essence: A plant ally of relational and clear communication, calendula flower essence provides a warming and energetic signature that is useful for receptivity, openness of communication in relationships.

Cerato Flower Essence: Encourages us to trust ourselves and to break patterns of doubt and uncertainty. Cerato, a remedy for trusting your intuition. This is for people who are easily influenced by the opinions of others and tend to trust outside authority over their inner knowing. This flower helps with individuality and accessing your own information.

Evening Primrose Flower Essence: Teaches us to be seen as we truly are. Primrose brings forth awareness and healing of bruised emotions, incarnational wounds, and imprints absorbed from childhood.

Goldenrod Flower Essence: Helps you find your backbone by fortifying presence through your spine, central channel and all of your chakras. This alignment is required for sovereignty, individuality and living your own truth, despite circumstances and external pressure to conform.

Rose of Sharon Flower Essence: Restores intuition and purity of the heart. Bringing in a grounded sense of joy and play.

Mimulus Flower Essence: Providing emotional courage, Mimulus helps us to overcome fear and embarrassment in intimate relationships. This flower strengthens our ability to step fully into ourselves and relationships with emotional transparency and resilience.

Wood Anemone Flower Essence: Supports us with seeing our part in long standing deep rooted relationship dynamics. It helps us not only see the play itself and the various archetypal characters, but to know what to do differently to disrupt the pattern. To slow the momentum down and eventually to catch it before it even happens. To choose a different outcome.

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Blended with corresponding plant allies, Resonance Apothecary Tinctures are excellent medicinal support for activating immunity. Tinctures are concentrated herbal extracts created by soaking plant matter in alcohol. This process extracts the medicinal qualities of the herb for more potent use.

They are shelf-stable dietary supplements whose effects vary depending on the specific herbs included in the tincture. Resonance Apothecary Tinctures are blended to support a wide range of wellness intentions, including immunity resilience, emotional balancing and nervous system support. Use with reverence, and enjoy the harmonization and fortification offered by these medicines.

Instructions:

Shake bottle to mix. Add 2 dropperfuls of the liquid in warm, still, or sparkling water. You can also take it directly/orally. Use tincture daily or as needed to harmonize, mind, body and soul.